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Guest blogged by Wendy M
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Although my wedding day is a whole 7 months away, I am an avid perfectionist and organiser who likes to get things done right, and get them done early! My planning began a few days after our engagement and now I look at a checklist which, to my disappointment, is halfway complete! I have loved every minute of my wedding planning and have found great enjoyment searching the net and reading through magazines for inspiration and ideas. I log onto Brides Buzzing every day to read through the latest blogs and have subscribed to about 10 different wedding newsletters, including a daily countdown!
My latest dilemma though, comes in the form of the wedding favour and I have to *guiltily* admit that it is not my favourite wedding subject!!!
I have a fun and funky colour scheme (fuchsia pink and black) and I am trying to make everything about my wedding fun and funky! From the personalised labels on the wine bottles, to the way the speeches are delivered and the way the decor looks. I recently hit a blank when someone asked me what my favours were and scuttled off home that evening to discuss it with Mr-2-B. We both agreed that we did not find value in spending a fortune on gifts for our guests as we are already providing a lavish food and drinks menu, not to mention oysters and champagne for them while we have our photos done.
All in all, our wedding budget comes to a blistering R100 000 (excluding the honeymoon…eek!) and we have 120 guests, most of which are friends, not family. On a budget of a minimum of R20 per gift, we are looking at R2 400 on that alone! I considered filling miniature sweet jars with black and pink sweets and printing a label at work for the jars….but just sourcing the mini jars is proving to be a nightmare, never mind the cost of the sweets to fill it.
On Friday evening I attended the Eastern Bridal Fair with Mrz Vintage Viola and we came across little boxes in the shape of a wedding dress and a tuxedo. The boxes were personalised with each person’s name and had a tiny space inside to fit a little pressie. An added bonus is that they were uber-affordable and super-cute! Yay!!!!
So out with the sweet jars…in with the little boxes!
Last night, reading through one of my MANY wedding magazines, I had an idea - as we are having chocolate mousse wedding cake (to be served as our dessert), why not fill the little boxes with pieces of traditional fruit wedding cake? We decided not to have one as our wedding cake as not many people eat fruit cake and we feel it is becoming a little outdated, but I know there are a handful of my guests who love fruit cake and a few of the guests will put it under their pillows at night to dream of their future husband.
My dilemma is…….
Is the fruit cake in the little boxes acceptable as a gift to our guests…..or do we still have to get each person a little something?
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I think it sounds great! I know a lot of people don’t really even do favours, and I certainly wouldn’t care. I’m just doing chocolates myself.
I think that’s perfectly acceptable! Let’s be honest, how many weddings have you gone to and left your favour on the table when you leave! I honestly can’t remember any gifts given as favours at weddings, except for one wedding we went to and they had bought everyone a R5 lotto ticket and had the mc call out the winning numbers at 8pm! I personally think they’re overrated, a lot of the weddings I’ve been to haven’t had favours, and nobody’s has been offended…they’re distracted by the free booze and food!!
Fruit cake in little boxes is a perfectly acceptable favour. Remember a favour is a small gift to say thank you - it doesnt have to be something they can keep forever…
my wedding is also 7 months away but i already have finished the check list, consulted friends who recently go married, and gone through every book, site that has wedding in it, i am becoming a bit of a freak when it comes to weddings. the worst on my list is my inlaws they will be coming from Limpopo and the wedding is in pretoria, so the transport saga is another one of my worries as it adds to my budget, im also not sure about a garden wedding or an inside one, cause if it rains it will be a dissaster.
Mrs-2B, I think that is perfect! The gift is not so they walk away with something tangible or expensive. Its just a little thought to say thank you and that u appreciated them being there!!!! I think if you really want a choc mousse cake then thats even more perfect to give fruit cake to go home and dream……….
Just remember that fruit cake is expensive and that when everything is added up - U might as well have gone for what u really wanted - just check before you go ahead:)
Keep us posted! Cant wait for the Champagne and Oysters :)
Guests shouldn’t come to expect gifts at a wedding. But it is a lovely gesture anyway, go for it!
I think Claire mentioning the Lotto idea can be great too.