Let’s be honest ladies. In most cases there are two mothers involved in helping you plan your wedding - your own and your mother-in-law to be. Ever hear that three’s a crowd?
I found some great advice here on how to keep the peace during wedding preparations, and a little more here on how to deal with in-laws after the big day. I’m going to have to put a lot of this into practise with my own families since I find myself between two very different ladies!
You see, my own mom was bullied into sacrificing almost all the things she wanted at her wedding to keep the peace between her two mothers. As a result, she is offering not one opinion on my plans, no matter how much I tell her I want her help. And it’s driving me crazy because we have exactly the same taste and I know she would be able to iron out the wrinkles in my plans! She has this mental block, where she thinks even the tiniest smidgen of interest will be construed as interference. I’m still working on her.
On the other hand I have my mother-in-law to be, who is a wedding machine all on her own. She’s been involved in catering and party planning for most of the almost 30 years of her own marriage and considers herself something of a expert on how things should be done. She was the one who put the notice in the local papers, she was the one who bought me the wedding planning book, she is the one with all the ideas. Except that she’s a complete traditionalist and we’re butting heads more and more as decisions need to be made.
Anyone in a similar situation?
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Firsly, welcome Mizz Iris!!!!
I was quite lucky with mine that I planned my wedding all on my own. Im stubborn as hell so it worked in my favour hehehe.
My MIL just lets me do my own thing, while occasionally offering to help if we need it, and my mom, while more excited, is much the same! I’m very lucky that no one is interfering or anything.
I am very lucky! My mom just let me have whatever I want. LOL. As for my fiance’s mom, and step mom, they all leave me to have it my way… lol
AINT I lucky ?
Queen Bee - thanks for the welcome :) I’m usually quite stubborn myself, but I need concrete ideas to work with before I start stamping my authority on everything… hehe. Mizz Honeysuckle and Mizz Calla Lily, consider yourselves very lucky, sheesh, I’m going to have to start dying my hair before the big day arrives at this rate…
Was plotting a secret wedding, you know - organise everything myself, invite people to a ‘party’ and then jump out of a wedding cake and yell SURPRISE!! But I realised I need help, sucks to not be Superwoman sometimes ;)
LOL, no there I am very lucky. IN fact sometimes I got upset, becoz my fiance’s parents aren’t very helpful! But then my mom noted that, this way, I get my way. LOL