My finances parents are coming to town over the weekend for a little visit. I am excited to see them, but I am worried that I am going to bore them to death with wedding stuff, which raises the question “how much wedding talk is too much?”
Inherently I am not a wedding person. I never dreamed about the big white dress and the long never ended walk down the isle. Basically I need help and I ask for advice… a lot! Suddenly I am asking friends random wedding questions over drinks and dinner and my friends don’t know how to react. My finance and I are the first couple to get married in our group of friends who do not have a little one on the way. As one friend wrote in his email “I have congratulated you before, although this whole concept of marriage without impending child birth is an alien and confounding one”.
So what do we do? We don’t often see out parents and that means that when either one of us visits all we do is wedding stuff. I also don’t want to visit us with a sense of foreboding gloom that bridezilla and groomzilla are going to attach them, cover them in decorative paper and force them onto the street while throwing confetti onto them. I want them to enjoy the organization of our wedding not help out because they feel they have to.
Any help?
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LOL - Im sure you waont bore them… but you might have a few suggestions from your new in laws - be careful though, sometimes their comments and suggestions can make you want to scream!!!!
Good Luck
I don’t bring up the wedding with my in-laws unless they ask! And it’s not because they’ll make awful suggestions, heheh, but for the same reason as you, Mizz Sunflower - I don’t want to bore them! Only now I worry that I’m not involving them enough! It’s hard to strike a balance.
Go with the flow… if you see their eyes glossing over… cool it, but otherwsie it is probably a very exciting timein their lives as well. They might feel special if you share the wedding thoughts with them. Don’t forget you are marrying their precious son! SOunds like you have a good relationship with them anyway… just dont forget to make his mom feel special.. she will really treasure it.
WEdding talk is exciting tho ;) wait until you are pregnant HAHAHA sorry wrong blog site for this remark!!!
hahah Evegenia - you should check out the new mom blog - i cant maintain it coz i have nothing to say on it - but its still cool hehe http://www.newmomontheblog.co.za
For me this is sooo difficult, as me and my inlaws, do not do the wedding talk. None of them really offered any help, so I accepted it. SO I just dont talk wedding stuff with them. AND although we live in the same town, we dont see eachother that much…..
BUT I really get what you are saying….
Good luck!